With less than a week before the holidays as a mom of a toddler I will admit it does not always seem like the most wonderful time of the year. With the countdown on it seems as though there are not enough hours in the day to get through the never ending to do list.
Why is that we are able to turn such a special time of year into the most stressful time of year?
During a season that is about giving and not receiving, it seems counterintuitive, and perhaps even selfish, to think about our self and our own needs.
It’s about the kids. It’s about spending time with family and friends. It’s about the cooking and baking. It’s about the shopping, wrapping and giving.
This could also be translated into…
It’s about running after the toddler praying he won’t have another meltdown before you make it out of the store. It’s about packing everything up, loading the car, bundling everyone up and hoping he sleeps in the car. It’s about baking cookies you know you should not be eating. It’s about going to parties and hoping they will end soon.
How many of the magical moments are truly magical?
The cost that comes when we put everyone’s needs and expectations ahead of ours is that we don’t actually enjoy the most wonderful time of the year.
It’s not hard to get caught up in the hype. To get sucked into the season and all the pressure that comes with it.
So what can you do to actually make it the most wonderful time of year?
Don’t be busy
I know this seems impossible, but if you don’t take control of your holiday schedule someone else will. Look at all the invites you have and decided which ones you don’t need or want to attend. Gracefully say no. Of course telling your mother-in-law you are not coming Christmas Day might not be an option, but the annual neighbourhood ugly Christmas sweater party or drinks with your work colleagues are probably not necessary.
Don’t focus on gifts
This is a trap we all get caught in (including me.) Shopping. Shopping. Shopping. It never seems like it’s going to end. Draw the line. Make a list and stick to it. The more stuff you buy the most stuff you will accumulate in your house and spend the next year picking up.
Make time for you
If not being busy seemed impossible, this may seem laughable. With no time for anything, time for yourself is at the very bottom of the list. But if you don’t make you a priority no one else will. I’m not talking about an overnight getaway with the girls or even an afternoon at the spa, but you need to take a little bit of time. A manicure. A yoga class. 30 minutes to read your book. 20 minutes to journal. 10 minutes to meditate. Whatever it is, make the time to do something just for you. You won’t make it through the season if you don’t look after yourself.
Have an attitude of gratitude
I truly believe our thoughts become our reality. When we focus and practice gratitude and love we will receive gratitude and love. Work on manifesting how you actually want the holidays to go. Focus on what you want and love, not on what you don’t want and don’t love. Remember the reason for the season and what you truly love about this time of year, even if it is being at home by yourself with a glass of red.
What are you doing to survive the holidays?
What do you love most about the holidays?