Often us moms get so busy, running from one thing to the next that the idea of having any time, let alone time to ourselves seems like a distant fairy tale.
As a working mom with a baby “me time” just does not happen. But how come? Because it’s not a priority? Because I’m too busy? It’s funny in a 24 hour day ALL the things we can find time for but the reality is, many of us don’t have “Mommy Time” on this list and if we do, we are probably at the very bottom. Why is this?
“I don’t have time.” “I’m too busy.” “My ‘to do list’ is too long.” We make up all kinds of different excuses to hide the fact that we are just not important enough. There are SO many other things on our list that are SO much more important, people relying on us, things that must get done, stuff that only “I” can do.
How often have you said “sorry kids we can’t eat tonight, I’m just too busy.” Or, “this week we are all going to wear the same clothes every day because I’m too busy to do the laundry.” Or, “I’m too busy to make sure you are going to school.”
We never say these things. We always find the time.
We also always find the time for our friend that calls with her latest crisis, the extra project that popped up at work, driving the kids to school because they are late…During the week we find time for SO many things but how often are one of those things Mommy Time?
My guess is never.
And the reason I’m writing this post is because this is something I’m guilty of. An area of my life that needs work. I know how important it is, because as I shared here, when you are off balance, your life quickly becomes off balance.
We need to make non-negotiable Mommy Time.
On the list of ALL the things you have to do this week Mommy Time needs to be there and it needs to be as highly prioritized as the going to work, feeding the children, doing the laundry and emptying the dishwasher. It has to happen.
The first thing you can do is make a list of all the things you love doing when you have the time.
Go ahead. I can wait.
The list could go on forever and could probably include a million things. Find the top five or ten things you love to do, schedule them in and make it a non-negotiable.
Let’s have a reality check. I went from having no me time to trying to fit ALL this in? I know the chances of that happening are zero, but making a list and putting pen to paper (or fingers to the iPhone) will help. Clearly identifying what’s important to you, will help you figure out what you need to help balance and where you need to be making time.
There’s never enough time for anything so be realistic on what is going to work for you given your schedule. Maybe there is only one non-negotiable for the week and a few for the month.
For example, going to the gym twice a week and sleeping in for an extra hour on Saturday morning could be the non-negotiable for the week. Going out on a date night with your husband and getting a manicure could be on your list for the month.
Be realistic. Trying to squeeze even more things onto your already over packed schedule is just going to stress you out more. Instead look at what can come off and how you can make Mommy Time a possibility.
What is on your non-negotiable list? What are you doing to make Mommy Time happen? I would love to hear your thoughts below.