Well it’s that time of year again, the holidays are in full swing and although it seems each year I’m trying to convince Kim to let me put the tree up earlier, this year has been a bit different.
With Noble just past the two month mark I’m finally starting to get a bit more sleep and think I have managed to shower before noon at least twice this week. However, the thought of trying to get through the holidays as a new mom seems rather overwhelming, shopping, cooking, parties and family gatherings, who has time?
Unfortunately this holiday elf is feeling much less holly than usual. In fact, there are moments when I’m actually dreading the days ahead. Can I cancel Christmas? Or maybe just take a rain check and celebrate in July, by then I might actually be ready.
But that’s part of the problem with Christmas, each year it seems to sneak up on us. Although there’s a lot to look forward to, this year especially, there is a lot of added stress and pressure. So what’s a new mom supposed to do?
Say NO to the gift exchange
The thought of going to the mall this time of year can cause the most sane person to develop a small twitch in their eye, going with a newborn…forget about it. Thank goodness for online shopping, but even that takes time and often just trying to decide what to buy is the most stressful part. Have a good look at your list, who can come off? Explain to your parents, siblings and best friend, this year you are not participating in the annual gift exchange and instead going to spend the time breastfeeding and changing diapers, they will understand.
Make yourself comfortable
Breastfeeding can be difficult on a normal day, at the family party with all your relatives adds an extra element of stress. When you arrive at the party scope out a quite spot where you will be able to sit and comfortably feed the babe. Make sure your husband is successfully set for his water boy position. If dinner is being served and the baby is on the boob, tell them to keep your plate warm and eat when you are ready.
Prioritize the parties
During the holidays there is always a long list of social gatherings, some we look forward to and others not so much. Review your list and decided which ones you want to go to and which ones you are going to pass on. The good news is this year you have the perfect excuse.
Take time to enjoy
Your baby is only going to have their first Christmas once, do you want to remember spending it as a stressed out basket case, worrying about all the things you have or should do? Or do you want to spend it actually being present in the moment? Take the time to enjoy what you have right now. The little babe you hold in your arms is only going to be this size once and by next year your life will be completely different. All the things you worried about this year won’t matter, if you can even remember what those things were…
What are you doing to de-stress this holiday season? Do you have a game plan for de-stressing when things become a bit (or a lot) overwhelming? What tactics are you going to use to have a stress free holiday season?
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