Since today is Mother’s Day it got me thinking about what it truly means for me to be a mom. I think about all the ways my life has changed since being a mom and I can’t imagine going back.
Becoming a mom has been the most challenging and rewarding thing that has ever happened to me. It has changed me in more ways then I think I will ever truly know and it has taught me seven invaluable lessons.
How to truly love
Being a mom has taught me to love in a way that I did not know was possible. It has strengthen my love for my husband and given me the gift of loving another human being more than I could have dreamed possible.
How to practice patience
Being a mom has taught me a level of patience that I did not think I could ever achieve. I will admit that unfortunately this level is not an absolute constant but, I have been able to find it when I need it and continue to practice using it which has also helped to increase it.
How to be more confident
Unfortunately babies don’t come with manuals, although everyone has some free advice to give you and there are one million parenting books, the truth is so much of motherhood is learning as you go. It’s about making a decision and sticking to it. It’s having the confidence to know you have the answer inside of you. It’s learning to truly trust your gut.
The importance of sleep
Sleep has always been a priority for me but something I took advantage of before becoming a mom. There is nothing better and more rejuvenating then eight hours of uninterrupted glorious sleep. Living in a sleep deprived fog is difficult and has a lot of negative implications but, it does not last forever and, when you get out of it your new appreciation for sleep is unwavering.
The importance of me time
Before becoming a mom I had all the time in the world. I don’t think I ever truly appreciated how precious time is, how quickly it can be filled with the tiniest of tasks and how no matter what you do there just never seems to be enough of it. Making sure I make time for myself has been extremely important. For me this means getting up extra early to work-out, meditate or journal. Making sure I get in a bit of time before the world is up and everything seems to be on fast forward, allows me to stay connected and calm when the inevitable storm rolls through.
My list of Non negotiables
Since there is never enough time I have learnt what my non negotiables are. My list of things that I must do every week to keep my sanity and to set myself up for success. The list is not super sexy, it includes things like meal planning, grocery shopping, preparing meals for the next day before I go to bed, scheduling in my exercise for the week so it’s actually in my calendar and meditating on a daily basis. These things that seem unimportant are what keep me organized, healthy and ultimately happy.
How to prioritize
Having a list of my non-negotiables allows me to prioritize what must get done, what would be nice to do and what can get done later or maybe not at all. With little time and the possibility of a never ending “to do” list it would be easy (and I have done it in the past) to drive myself crazy thinking about how much I have to do and how there is just never enough time to do it. Instead I prioritize, I ask for help and I say no to things. My time is precious and I’m very careful with how it is used.
What has being a mom taught you? How has it changed you? How have you celebrated being a beautiful mama today?